“At birth, you inherit one million hours. It’s how you invest your time that truly counts.”
CI used to say this to me when I was a kid, sitting in his gym during basketball camps. Back then, it was just a phrase — something that sounded wise but didn’t fully sink in. Now, looking back nearly 20 years later, I realize just how right he was. Time flies, and every choice about where — and with whom — we spend it matters more than we think.
One thing I’ve learned in my late twenties is just how important it is to make time for the people you love. Life moves fast, and between work, responsibilities, and everyday stress, it’s easy to go weeks — even months — without truly connecting with family or friends. If we’re not intentional, those moments slip right through our fingers.
And please — don’t fall into the trap of the famous, “Yeah, we really need to get together soon,” only to realize months later that it still hasn’t happened. I’ve been guilty of it too, but I’ve learned you’ve got to make it happen.
For my wife and me, we’ve found a schedule that works for us. We’ve set aside certain nights each week that are non-negotiable — evenings dedicated to the people who matter most. Fridays are for friends, Sundays are for her parents, and Mondays are for my parents. It sounds simple, but having that structure brings me so much peace. I know exactly when I’ll get to spend time with the people I care about, and it takes the stress out of constantly “trying to fit it all in.”
And here’s a little pro tip: dinner with loved ones often means a meal cooked for you — or, at the very least, loved ones who will take you out to dinner and absolutely refuse to let you pay.
But these nights aren’t just about showing up — or scoring a free meal. They’re about being present. Sharing a meal, laughing together, and just enjoying each other’s company. It’s a reminder that life isn’t just about work, paying bills, or checking boxes. It’s about relationships, memories, and the moments that truly matter.
And yes, this also means putting the phones down. I’ll be the first to admit I’m terrible at this, but every time I catch myself scrolling, I end up feeling guilty. I always think, “Man, I wish I’d been more present.”
I know everyone’s schedule looks different, and carving out time can feel impossible sometimes. But even small rituals can make a huge difference:
A quick phone call — I have some friends and family I check in with weekly. My Godfather, Steve Sleboda, is especially great at this. We’ll chat, catch up, and it always ends with an “I love you.” A small gesture on his part, but it means the world to me.
A walk with a friend — For Lauren and me, this often includes our four-legged son, Buck. (Yes, your furry friends need love too — they’re family.) And if you and a friend both exercise — combine the two: get moving together. That’s the classic “two birds, one stone” trick.
A weekly dinner — We all eat, so why not make it intentional? Use that time to connect. If you come from an Italian family, you know that some of the best decisions are made over food. For us, our family spot for special occasions is The Villa — no place better for good food and great conversations.
And one last thing — don’t forget to make time just for your significant other. Have fun with it! Go on date nights, plan something spontaneous, or carve out a quiet moment just for the two of you. Folding laundry together does not count as quality time — right, Lauren?
At the end of the day, it’s not about how much time you have; it’s about what you do with it. Be intentional, stay connected, and cherish the people who matter most.
These days, I often catch myself reflecting during those special moments with family and friends — sitting there, looking around, and just feeling grateful. We’re so lucky to share these relationships and create memories with the people who matter most.
That’s all I have for this week. I hope this inspires you to reach out to a friend or family member, make a plan, and spend some time together. Life moves fast, but these are the moments that truly last.
Hebrews 10:24-25 And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another — and all the more as you see the day approaching.
