Prom is right around the corner, and we all know that prom night planning reaches a fever pitch a few weeks before the big event. A significant amount of time and money are involved in making prom a night to remember. While teens may be focused on fashion and fun, parents may be wondering what they can do to steer their sons and daughters in the right direction. Here are some pointers to consider as families prepare for prom.
The pandemic has affected supply chains and has contributed to increased prices on all types of consumer goods, so you may find that prom attire and accessories will cost more this year. Figure out what you can afford to contribute to the prom, and ask your teenager to pitch in. If your child is footing some of the bill, there may be a greater willingness to corral spending. One way to save money is to rent a gown/tuxedo rather than purchasing one outright.
Prom planning can be stressful. Various details have to come together on the big day. Even though they may appear to be young adults, teens still may have meltdowns or impulse control issues when things don’t go their way. Set an example by reacting to obstacles calmly and finding workarounds. Something is bound to go wrong in the lead up to prom night, being the calm in the hormonal teenage storm can help to avert potential ‘disaster.’
The Insurance Institute for Highway Safety says the months of April through June are some of the most dangerous times of year for teens, particularly regarding alcohol-related traffic accidents. Many teens are looking at prom night as an opportunity to let loose, and that may include alcohol consumption or drug use. Parents shouldn’t condone underage drinking when hosting teens at home or when hosting an after-party at a hotel or restaurant where alcohol will be served. Not only is it irresponsible, it is illegal to give alcohol to anyone who is under 21.
Talk about risky behaviors. Parents, teachers and community leaders can talk to teens about the potentially dangerous behaviors present on prom night. Remind teens they can always come to an adult without the risk of being punished if they find themselves in an uncomfortable situation. Parents can continue to establish trust so their kids can come to them when they need help or advice. Remember, your child’s safety is first and foremost. You can always deal with consequences at a later time, but in the moment, the priority needs to be getting your kid(s) home safe and sound. Make sure they know they can always call for a safe ride home, regardless of circumstance.
A Statistics Brain survey of nearly 13,000 high school students found that 14 percent of girls reported having sex on prom night, and 5 percent of girls and 3 percent of boys lost their virginity on prom night. There’s also the potential for sexual assault at prom, particularly when alcohol is present. Informed parents who are keeping tabs on who their children will be hanging out with and setting partying limits can make prom night as safe as possible.
Again, this is where you have to give a little in order to maintain trust with your kids, while also watching out for their health and safety. I’ll be honest, sometimes you have to ask yourself the tough questions. Would you rather pick up your intoxicated child from a party at 2:00 a.m., or get a call from the coroner because they were, or were with someone who was drinking and driving? Would you rather become a grandparent, or suck it up and make sure that you child has condoms in their wallet or purse? It may be a bit uncomfortable, but there are far worse things in life than having an uncomfortable conversation that could have potentially life-changing consequences for your teen.
Prom night can be an enjoyable life experience. Parents can do their parts to make prom safer and less stressful.
